Personal Mindset ・4 min read
When I was trying to make it as an actor, I actively avoided having actor friends or becoming part of any acting communities. I just wanted to go to acting class, rehearse for auditions with my boyfriend, and grind it out til I got my break.
I just didn’t see the value or importance of community.
It seemed like there were only two options.
Create Your Community・8 min read
You are the first generation in all of human history that has to learn how to build community on your own. Everyone that came before you was just plopped into one — their town, their office, their church.
It’s a daunting thought, but it’s not all bad. Because with just a little bit of guidance and a little bit of thought, you can have something none of those guys before you had — a community you love. Because you get to choose it.
Create Your Community・12 min read
Ask a community leader how they think about community and they'll tell you, "EVERYWHERE!" - me, trying to make community jokes happen
Do you know what I love? I love grocery shopping.
I love grocery shopping so much, I would consider a side job working for Instacart.
Not in their head office, putting my company-building experience to great use, but on the ground. In the shelves.
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Make New Friends・5 min read
Stephen King is my hero right now. I’m 5 books into his 7-book saga, The Dark Tower (DON’T watch the movie!), and I’m OBSESSED. It’s a sci-fi, fantasy, spaghetti western, which is a phrase I thought I’d never say. Let alone a genre I’d be into.
So why am I talking to you about Stephen King, when all you wanna know is how to meet new people you’ll actually love?
Build Strong Relationships・5 min read
Zoom fatigue is real. Guess which of the photos below is when I started to feel it.
Yeah, it's definitely the one where I'm trying to sleep on top of my cat.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Feeling exhausted, irritated, and emotionally drained by the constant video calls has become such a widespread thing that we even have a name for it.
Create Your Community・9 min read
Do you ever feel like your social life’s in a rut?
You have a few good friends and some coworkers you see regularly. But that’s about it. You’re not meeting new people you can connect with. And you don’t know how to meet them.
Build Strong Relationships ・4 min read
Relationships deepen with time and shared experiences, but we can also help them along in more intentional ways!
Games are one of the best ways to share experiences and deepen relationships. Whether they put a playful spin on deeper conversations or facilitate ways to work together and compete, they can help take our relationships to the next level.
Personal Mindset ・11 min read
It took me a long time to learn how to be myself. And it’s something I still work at every day.
You’d think being yourself would be easy, but for most of us, it’s not. The negative experiences we go through teach us that it’s not okay to be yourself. That you need to change or hide who you are to be accepted.
Personal Mindset ・3 min read
I wanted to share a secret with you today.
I’ve spent so much of my life feeling like the kid on the outside, with my face pressed against the window, trying to figure out what made everybody else connect and why I didn’t have it.
I was so jealous of all the people I met who were so effortlessly charming.
Personal Mindset ・3 min read
My relationship with intuition is complicated. It’s something I’ve been pretty disconnected from for most of my life. Something I’ve started paying attention to only recently.
My relationship with intuition is intertwined with my femininity, with my sense of self-compassion and self-respect, with getting older and thinking about what I want from the rest of my life.
The truth is this past year has been hard.
Personal Mindset ・6 min read
I’ve lived most of my life with walls 100 ft. high around the person I actually am. I never liked to show the things I cared about or was excited by or that made me laugh, because I was scared of being rejected for them. I waited til I knew people really cared about me, then another 5 years on top of that before actually showing them who I was.
That made it hard to make and keep friends, and it felt like I could never be my full self in relationships. Fear of being hurt, rejected, or found wanting kept me safe but detached from people. It took a lot of practice in low-key situations to learn how to let my guard down, and to become comfortable with being myself in situations with new people.
Build Strong Relationships ・5 min read
Once you get into the daily grind of adult life, it can be easy to forget what real friendship feels like. Most of your relationships are fine, most people are okay, and that feels like it’s enough.
When we fall into that rut, it helps a lot to hear from people who’ve experienced it, what true friendship feels like. To know that it’s out there and that it’s something we can (and should!) have in our lives as well!
Have you ever wanted to reach out to someone but didn’t quite know what to say? Maybe it’s a friend you’ve fallen out of touch with, or someone you know in passing but would like to get to know better.
It can be scary to be the one to reach out. Especially with someone you don’t know very well. As much as we want connection, we also don’t want to put ourselves (or the other person) in an uncomfortable position.
Make New Friends ・4 min read
I don’t know about you, but COVID has reduced my social life to work, family, and the occasional zoom call with a friend. There’s no opportunity in my day-to-day to meet new people unless it’s a networking call.
What I really miss is going to an event, a concert, or even just a bar, and having an impromptu conversation with someone I wouldn’t have met otherwise.
If you're feeling the same way, check out these 5 places you can go to make new friends online.
Create Your Community ・5 min read
Maybe you just moved to a new place and don’t quite feel at home yet, or maybe you’ve been in the same spot for years and still feel that same way. It can be hard to feel truly at home somewhere, especially in a big city. But you can change that with surprisingly little effort!
Here are 7 quick, easy, and FUN tips for getting to know your neighbourhood and finding new things to love about it. While Covid restrictions are in place some modifications might be needed, but you can do most of these without much adjustment!
When we’re focused on “wanting connection”, we try to find it (and sometimes force it) with anyone who crosses our path. When we shift our focus to other things, we give ourselves room to breathe, and put a lot less pressure on our interactions.
But the problem with just letting spontaneous connections happen is that a lot of times, they don’t. When we leave things entirely up to chance, more often than not, we don’t meet anyone.
Here's what you can do to have more chance encounters.
Personal Mindset・3 min read
For a good chunk of my twenties, I felt out of touch with myself.
If someone asked me what I wanted to do, I saw it as a frustrating game of trying to guess what they wanted. If someone asked me how I felt, I often wouldn’t be able to answer.
I just didn’t know, and I didn’t think it was important. My life revolved around people-pleasing and achieving at work. I wanted to be perfect and successful and to give people what they wanted so they’d like me.
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